Have you just ended a relationship, or is a separation or divorce something you have been thinking a lot about? Whatever position you are in, admitting that it is the end and making the decision to break from a serious relationship is one of the most traumatic life experiences you will go through. Therefore, it's understandable many will hesitate or put off making the decision owing to the belief it will be too painful;the thoughts of being alone forever or never recovering; or if children are involved, that they will not cope or be damaged. At times you might even be fooled into believing "it's going to get better." But what happens when it doesn’t?
How many people stay in a relationship far longer than is healthy for either partner? Statistics show staying in a bad or hostile relationship is worse for your health than separation. I’ve been there—maybe not exactly in your position, but somewhere close. I'd been married for several decades when our relationship changed. I used to question others when they said, "I love him, but I'm not in love with him," but that's exactly how it was for me. Now, I'm sure my experience will be entirely different from yours, but I can guarantee you’re going through an entire range of negative emotions: confusion, panic, sadness, fear, shame, disappointment, frustration, jealously. All of these emotions are entirely normal for now, and so this isn’t a time to be beating yourself up.
People change—consider how we move career, our social interaction, our exercise regime—so why not relationships? Please don't get me wrong, I'm pro marriage and long-term love. However, when things change, what is the price of your happiness? Having stood back and looked at my own marriage, I realise now how we were holding each other back. My marriage had been good and had allowed us to both to grow, but our reasons for staying together no longer made sense to me, even though we had children.
Breakups are crossroads in any relationship—a time to make choices rather than simply let life happen—and when they are faced in the most co-operative, dignified, and respectful way you will do more than survive. I know it’s hard to believe you can have the life and love of your dreams, but it’s possible. My coaching will help you no matter where you are in the break-up process, whether it is:
Admitting that it is the end?
Taking care of the children and finding positive ways to deal with their emotional needs.
Dealing with your own confidence and self-esteem.
How to deal with conflict and toxic dynamics
Healing the relationship with yourself
Healing relationships with others
Expanding the relationship with your self worth
Reclaimin your power
Creating a compelling future with love and a deeper happiness you desire and deserve to have.